AITA for being unsympathetic to my parents who made me give birth to baby from SA at 13 so they could raise them and now that baby is old enough to be no contact after learning the truth?

Parents forced me to give birth at 13—now their child cut them off, and I refused to help

At 12, I was S_A’d and my parents blocked medical care until abortion was no longer possible. Years later, after their child learned the truth and went no contact, they demanded my sympathy—and I said no.

When I disclosed the S_A to my parents, they suspected a pregnancy and refused a doctor or options until it was too late. They wanted another child after my brother died and decided the pregnancy was “meant to be.” I was forced to deliver at 13, then allowed to live with my grandma and went no contact with my parents. I never met or held the baby. Most of my extended family cut my parents off; a few stayed minimally in touch.

I was a child forced into childbirth by my own parents after an S_A, and I survived by leaving. I built a life—husband, kids, peace—far from them. Now that their child knows the truth and has cut them off, my parents want me to fix what they broke. I won’t.

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As a young teen, I wanted medical care and an abortion; my parents prevented both until it was impossible. After delivery at 13, I moved in with my grandma and cut my parents off. I never bonded with or met the baby, and I pursued years of therapy to rebuild my life. My parents raised the child as theirs and kept the truth hidden.

"I don't care. I don't owe them anything."

Recently, a relative gave my parents my contact information. They called sobbing: they had finally told their child everything—about me, them, the S_A—and the child went no contact. They said their hearts were broken, begged me to help, and wanted me to step in to soothe the fallout. A family member piled on, insisting I be “more sympathetic” and stop “holding this over their heads.”

"I never loved the baby I gave birth to at 13, and I still wish I could have had an abortion."

I told my parents I wouldn’t get involved, ended the call, and blocked them. I also blocked the relative who tried to guilt me and stir up the family. Most relatives remain supportive of my boundaries; the few who disagree are loud but unchanged. I’m staying no contact and protecting the life I built.

🏠 The Aftermath

Their child has gone no contact with them after learning the truth; I remain no contact with my parents and with the relative who shared my information.

I blocked all numbers; I live with my husband and kids; my grandmother-era boundaries stay firm.

Socially, most family members continue to support me; a small faction is angry. Emotionally, I’m stable and focused on my own household, not repairing what my parents caused.

Natural consequences aren’t cruelty.

I’m not celebrating anyone’s pain, but I won’t be drafted to cushion the fallout of choices that traumatized me. The irony is that truth-telling—something I begged for—finally happened only when it cost them.

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💭 Emotional Reflection

This story sits at the intersection of trauma, control, and truth. My parents framed the pregnancy as destiny after losing a child, but their choice denied me medical care, autonomy, and safety. Years later, the truth shattered the family they built on secrecy.

Boundaries aren’t vengeance; they’re survival. I can feel compassion for the person raised in this situation without sacrificing myself to fix the harm my parents engineered. Healing meant leaving—and keeping that door closed.

Reasonable people may disagree on whether I owe contact for the child’s sake, but consent and accountability matter. I didn’t create this problem; I was a child it happened to.

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Reddit weighed in with strong feelings on accountability and boundaries:

NTA. They blocked medical care and weaponized your trauma. The fallout is theirs to manage, not yours.

You can empathize with the kid while keeping distance. A therapist—not the victimized bio-mom—should support them.

Anyone saying “it’s been years” is ignoring that the harm started when you were 12 and never respected your consent.

Most commenters labeled this NTA, emphasizing bodily autonomy and long-term trauma; a minority urged cautious compassion for the child while still protecting boundaries.

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🌱 Final Thoughts

When truth finally arrives, it doesn’t require the person who was harmed to become the fixer. Protecting your peace after profound violation is not cruelty—it’s clarity.

Sympathy for a hurting young adult can coexist with a firm no to the people who caused the hurt.

What do you think?
Would you have left, or stayed and kept trying to make it work? Share your thoughts below 👇

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