My Ex Partner Violated My Boundaries and Gaslit Me for Years

November 29, 2025

Woman Gaslit Me After Assault, Threatened Suicide

When I confronted her about it she started screaming and crying, said that I was the one who took the condom off and if I thought anything different had happened that I was "crazy" and needed to get "serious help with my memory." Then proceeded to tell me I should k*_ll myself because she was the only one who would put up with my "weirdness."

Men can be s*_xu*lly assaulted, gaslit, held captive, and fear for their lives as a result of the ab*_se too in a heteronormative relationship.

Then she threatened to break all my things if I left, and once tried to crash the car repeatedly by yanking on the steering wheel.

I tried, she pushed me against the wall and told me to "Stop it".

🏠 The Aftermath

Edit: Thank you everyone for the support, I'm going to address a few things I have been seeing recurring in the comments.

- I am doing very well now, I have a wonderful girlfriend who has shown me what a healthy relationship is.

- I have no interest in pursuing any sort of legal action against her.

Last I heard of her she was financially ruined and on the verge of homelessness. I am perfectly happy with leaving our story there.

Edit 3: Last and final edit to address the people asking me why I just didn't push her off if I was so much bigger than her.

💭 Emotional Reflection

- I say this because in a conversation I had with a woman I once considered my friend, she had to continually stop me and tell me that while I was "technically abused" it wasn't as bad as it could have been.

- It became obvious that my only choice left was to cause bodily-harm to this woman to get her to stop.

- I suggest the people who have this disgusting victim-blaming line of thought go and look at articles about how Terry Crews was asked similar questions.

An emotional rollercoaster of a story with lessons for all.