Husband Hid Kids from Me, Now Wants Custody: AITA for Threatening Divorce?
I found out my husband has kids after marrying him, and now he wants 50/50 custody—forcing me to care for them. Am I wrong for considering divorce?
I, a vehemently childfree individual, married my husband, oblivious to his two children, ages 10 and 7. He dropped this bombshell recently, expressing his wish for 50/50 custody despite his demanding work schedule.
I own a successful honeymoon planning business and maintain separate finances from my husband. However, his desire for shared custody poses a significant lifestyle change that conflicts with my childfree stance.
I was furious he had lied to me and was even more angry when he told me he wanted 50/50.
Despite my ultimatum threatening divorce if he pursues custody, he insists I should accommodate his wishes and the children's care based on his work hours.
He called me an a*****e and told me I should step up so that he can have more money in his savings and for fun.
Now, I am contemplating ending the marriage due to our irreconcilable differences regarding children.
🏠 The Aftermath
Following the revelation, I have decided to move forward with an annulment to preserve my childfree lifestyle and business.
I will retain ownership of my business, savings, and inherited property while my husband has left the house.
The consequences of this decision are the dissolution of our marriage and the disruption of his relationship with his children.
Leaving him with the kids was the only option to maintain my autonomy.
Despite the relief of sticking to my principles, the emotional toll of the situation is undeniable.
💭 Emotional Reflection
The clash over children has illuminated the deep divide in our values and priorities, leading to an inevitable conclusion.
This experience highlights the importance of honesty and alignment in fundamental life choices within a relationship.
While my decision may seem harsh, it is rooted in the irreconcilable differences that emerged post-discovery.
Reactions to my ultimatum have been mixed, with some supporting my stance and others criticizing the abruptness of the decision.
You have the right to prioritize your well-being and principles.
His dishonesty and demands were unacceptable; you deserve to maintain your boundaries.
His failure to disclose such critical information undermines the foundation of trust in your marriage.
The community response reflects the conflicting viewpoints on personal autonomy versus familial responsibilities.
🌱 Final Thoughts
Navigating the complexities of relationships and individual values can lead to unexpected crossroads and tough decisions.
In the end, sacrificing personal beliefs for the sake of a relationship may not always be the most sustainable path forward.
What do you think?
Would you have left, or stayed and kept trying to make it work? Share your thoughts below 👇
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