Husband Left Me for Someone Else 3 Weeks Before Our Baby’s Due Date
TL;DR: Having a baby in 3ish weeks, husband met someone else while I was away, doesn't love me anymore, still wants to co-parent despite his discomfort with me.
My husband and I have been married for 2 years, together for 6. Last month I went overseas for a work related trip and he met someone else. 3 weeks into my 4 week trip I figured something wasn't right so I asked him what was going on and he told me he met someone else who he has very strong feelings for. I returned early from my trip to try and work things out and he was not interested in working things out with me at all, so we have been separated now for just a couple of weeks.
This is our first baby and they are due in just a few weeks now (36 weeks pregnant) and while I have a lot of support from family and friends I am unsure how my husband and I could possibly work together to raise this child as he is suddenly so uncomfortable being around me at all.
He told me he has just been very unhappy for many years now and has been masking and hiding his true feelings and true self the whole while.
He has unofficially been diagnosed with bipolar but he doesn't go to therapy and isn't on any medication to help with this. He also seems to be totally infatuated with this other person, to the point where he has been buying her gifts, staying up very late speaking with her over the phone most nights, doing lots of extra outside activities with her and things he wouldn't normally do.
He only met this person the day after I left to go overseas and since then he claims he is in love with her.
He says he still really wants to co-parent with me but he doesn't treat me very respectfully anymore and seems to lack a lot of empathy for me in this situation. Because of this I have no idea if I can trust him with parenting our child.
🏠 The Aftermath
After the decision, my husband and I are now separated with a baby due in a few weeks. He is infatuated with another woman, making it challenging to trust his ability to co-parent.
He has shown discomfort being around me, lacks empathy, and is focused on his new relationship, raising concerns about his parenting capabilities.
The situation is emotionally taxing, leaving me heartbroken, betrayed, and uncertain about our future as co-parents.
Despite his desire to co-parent, his actions and emotional state raise doubts about his commitment and stability as a parent.
Navigating this new reality is challenging, requiring a delicate balance between personal emotions and the impending arrival of our child.
💭 Emotional Reflection
The emotional turmoil of my husband leaving for another woman just before our baby's arrival is overwhelming. Balancing heartbreak, betrayal, and uncertainty about his role as a parent adds to the complexity of the situation.
Reflecting on the miscommunication, unaddressed mental health issues, and sudden change in his feelings sheds light on the challenges ahead in co-parenting.
Navigating the emotional aftermath while preparing for parenthood requires a delicate dance of self-care, resilience, and a willingness to adapt to an unexpected reality.
Community Reaction:
It's heartbreaking to see how his actions have created such a difficult situation right before the baby's arrival.
His behavior raises serious concerns about his ability to prioritize co-parenting responsibilities over his new relationship.
The emotional toll on the OP, coupled with the impending birth of the child, highlights the need for clear communication and boundaries moving forward.
The community response reflects a mix of empathy for the OP's situation and concern about the husband's commitment to co-parenting amidst his new relationship.
🌱 Final Thoughts
Navigating the complexities of co-parenting while dealing with a sudden separation and emotional upheaval is a daunting task. Finding a path forward that prioritizes the well-being of both the child and the parents requires careful consideration and open communication.
Amidst the heartbreak and uncertainty, the journey towards establishing a healthy co-parenting dynamic will undoubtedly be challenging but essential for the well-being of all involved.
What do you think?
Would you have left, or stayed and kept trying to make it work? Share your thoughts below 👇
 wants to leave me for someone else (23F) while I'm (33F) heavily pregnant with his child. How can we co-parent now that this has happened?){kind=link}
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