Partner Wants Open Relationship After 7 Years: AITA for Kicking Her Out?
After 7 years together, my partner dropped a bombshell: she wanted an open relationship because she identified as polyamorous and needed more. But after years of supporting her financially while she stayed unemployed, played video games, and neglected our relationship, I reached my breaking point.
We had been together for 7 years, and out of nowhere, she dropped the bomb that she wanted to open our relationship because she felt polyamorous and unfulfilled emotionally.
I've been working full-time to support her for 2.5 years while she stayed jobless, played video games, and neglected our relationship. She didn't contribute, clean, or take care of the dogs she brought in.
"She wanted to open the relationship and acted like I was just going to have to go along with it."
When I expressed my discomfort, she tried to guilt me, claiming no one man could fulfill her needs and I was just one piece of her puzzle. She even shamed me for taking it personally.
"This was not a question. She just said that she wanted to open the relationship."
Fed up, I asked her to leave. She begged me to stay, but I stood my ground, refusing to let her take the computer I paid for when she moved out.
🏠 The Aftermath
I made the difficult decision to end the relationship and asked her to leave. She pleaded for forgiveness, but I stood firm.
She moved back in with her parents, taking only her personal belongings, while I kept the computer I purchased.
The aftermath left me feeling relieved but also saddened by the end of a long-term relationship.
"Her sudden change in demeanor when I asked her to leave was eye-opening."
Despite the emotional turmoil, I knew that ending things was the right choice for both of us.
💭 Emotional Reflection
Looking back, I see the communication breakdown and the mismatch in our needs that led to this breaking point. It's clear we were on different paths.
While it's tough to end a long-term relationship, I know it was necessary for both of our emotional well-being.
The experience taught me the importance of open communication and setting boundaries in relationships.
The community would likely be split over this situation.
"She was completely out of line for expecting you to agree to an open relationship after everything you've done for her."
"You made the right call by standing up for your own emotional needs and well-being."
"It's unfortunate that it had to end this way, but sometimes tough decisions are necessary for personal growth."
The responses reflect the range of emotions and perspectives surrounding this challenging situation.
🌱 Final Thoughts
In the end, I had to prioritize my own emotional health and well-being, even if it meant ending a long-term relationship. Setting boundaries and standing up for myself was crucial.
Sometimes, the hardest decisions lead to the most growth, and this experience was no exception.
What do you think?
Would you have left, or stayed and kept trying to make it work? Share your thoughts below 👇
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