AITA for Refusing to Let My Brother Move In After He Lost His Job as a Doctor?
After losing his medical license and being investigated for fraud, a former doctor demanded his sister take him in — but she says she can’t and won’t shoulder the weight of his mistakes.
My brother was a doctor — was being the key word. He lost his job recently and is now being investigated for healthcare fraud. I’m not in the medical field, so I’ll try my best to explain what happened. In my country, the healthcare system only covers a medication called Semaglutide for diabetes. For anything else, people must pay for it themselves.
Apparently, my brother found a way to cheat the system. There’s a test doctors give to confirm diabetes, where patients must fast, drink a special liquid, and then get tested twice. My brother told his patients to eat before both tests — which made it look like they had diabetes when they didn’t. That way, they could get Semaglutide covered for free.
I’m not sure how he got caught, but some of his patients ended up in the hospital. Now, he’s been banned from practicing medicine in our country and is under investigation for defrauding the healthcare system. His career is over.
“He Says I’m the Only One Who Can Help Him”
Now that he’s lost everything, he wants to move in with me. The problem? I live in a studio apartment. There isn’t even a spare bed, let alone space for another adult to live long-term. He says he wouldn’t work, that I’d have to pay for everything until “things calm down.”
I said no. I simply can’t afford to support another person. I work full-time as an electrician and sometimes do extra shifts as a mechanic, but it’s just enough for me. My brother told me I could “just work more hours” while he stays with me — which only made me angrier.
Our parents live in a retirement community and can’t help. Our grandfather is in assisted living. My brother says I’m the only one left who can help him. When I said no, he accused me of being a “bad sister” and claimed I’m abandoning him when he needs family most.
“He says I must help him — but I didn’t cause this mess. He did.”
A Lifetime of Excuses
This isn’t the first time my brother has leaned on others. Even before this, he always seemed to expect people to clean up his mistakes — financially, emotionally, whatever. My parents used to bail him out, but they can’t anymore. And now, because I have a steady job, I’m his new target.
He says I owe him because we’re family. But what he did wasn’t a small mistake — he deliberately cheated the system, risked people’s health, and destroyed his career. I don’t think “family loyalty” means sacrificing my stability for someone who refuses to take responsibility for their choices.
“He lost his job, his license, and his credibility — now he wants my home too.”
Standing My Ground
I told him clearly: no. Not because I don’t care, but because I can’t and won’t enable him. He’s angry and keeps calling me heartless, but I don’t feel guilty. I didn’t ruin his career — he did that himself. I’ve spent too long working to build a stable life to let his problems drag me down.
Maybe one day he’ll understand that actions have consequences. But until then, I’m keeping my home, my peace, and my boundaries intact.
“I refuse to lose everything I’ve built just because my brother refuses to own his mistakes.”
💬 Typical Reddit Reactions:
“NTA. Your brother didn’t make a mistake — he committed fraud. That’s not your burden to carry.”
“You have every right to protect your space and your finances. His choices, his consequences.”
“Do not let guilt manipulate you into financial ruin. Boundaries are love too.”
🌱 Final Thoughts
Sometimes saying “no” to family isn’t cruelty — it’s self-preservation. Compassion doesn’t mean sacrificing your stability for someone who created their own downfall. This sister’s refusal isn’t heartless; it’s the only way to stop a cycle of entitlement before it consumes her too.
What do you think?
Should family loyalty extend even to those who’ve caused their own ruin — or are some lines worth holding firm? Share your thoughts below 👇
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