AITA For Telling My Friend That My Husband Gets Turned On By Us Working Out Together?
When a simple fitness friendship turns into an awkward marital confession, one woman is left questioning loyalty, honesty, and boundaries.
The OP (29F) became close friends with Jenna (43F) because their babies are the same age. Her husband, Richard (30M), has always been a fitness enthusiast with a full home gym — the perfect setup for the two moms to exercise together and get back in shape.
It Started As A Workout Routine — Until Things Got Weird
Over the months, her husband started wanting intimacy more frequently — a change she assumed was because she was regaining her pre-baby body. But then came the odd requests: sometimes he didn’t want her to shower after workouts before getting intimate.
“He said he liked the smell of my workouts. I thought it was weird, but harmless.”
That illusion shattered one day when, after a workout session with Jenna, her husband — under the influence — blurted out that he found it hot that the two women exercised together. He even admitted that he could “smell Jenna” on his wife, and it turned him on.
💣 The Confession And Fallout
Shocked and disgusted, the OP stopped him and demanded an explanation. He tried brushing it off as “dirty talk,” but eventually admitted that the idea of the two women working out together aroused him.
“It’s not like I did anything — it’s just in my head,” he argued.
The OP was torn — it wasn’t physical cheating, but it felt deeply inappropriate. Ultimately, she decided to tell Jenna, believing she had the right to know. Jenna understandably stopped coming over, but didn’t blame her friend for what happened.
What she didn’t expect was that her other friends would be divided about it. One friend, Jennifer (31F), supported her decision. The other, Elizabeth (30F and married), said she was wrong to tell Jenna and that her husband hadn’t actually done anything wrong.
🧠 Honesty Or Oversharing?
The married friend argued that the husband had only thoughts — no actions — and that OP had made him “the villain” unnecessarily. But the OP disagreed, saying she would’ve felt dishonest if she’d kept Jenna in the dark.
“I would’ve felt like a bad person if I didn’t tell her the truth,” she said.
Now she’s left questioning whether honesty was the right move — or if she created more chaos by bringing it to light.
Reddit was firmly divided — though most supported OP’s choice to tell her friend the truth.
“You did the right thing. Secrets like that fester and destroy trust.”
“Your husband sexualizing your friend is deeply disrespectful — she had a right to know.”
“Thoughts can’t be controlled, but actions can. And he acted on his fantasy by involving you.”
A smaller group echoed Elizabeth’s view — that OP might’ve gone too far by sharing a private confession. But the majority agreed: transparency matters, especially when it crosses personal boundaries.
🌱 Final Thoughts
Relationships are built on trust — and sometimes, telling the truth causes short-term pain but prevents long-term damage. The OP may have lost a gym buddy, but she gained clarity about her husband’s behavior.
What do you think?
Should she have stayed quiet, or was she right to tell her friend? Share your thoughts below 👇
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