My Husband’s “Break” Turned Out To Be an Affair — and His Girlfriend Sent a Card to Our House
A woman discovered her husband’s secret relationship not through confession, but through a shockingly explicit love note mailed directly to their shared home — the same home where she was caring for their four children alone.
I (36F) and my husband (36M) have been together for 16 years and share four children. About six weeks ago, we decided to “take a break” because he said he needed space. Four weeks ago, he officially told me we were single — but not divorced — because he claimed his new anxiety medication made his head “fuzzy” and he needed time to think.
He promised he wasn’t walking away from our marriage completely. He said he still wanted to work things out. But just a week after that, he told me he was “seeing someone.”
During the first two weeks of our so-called break, he disappeared for entire weekends — from Friday afternoon to Sunday night — with zero contact. I was home alone with our kids, handling everything, while he was off… somewhere. When he finally admitted he had been “seeing someone,” I couldn’t help but think those mysterious weekends weren’t so mysterious after all.
“Making You Horny and Making You Smile…”
Today, I was sorting through our mail — something I do regularly because his business clients often send checks or thank-you notes. One envelope felt like a card, and I assumed it was another client’s message. Instead, I opened it to find a card from his new girlfriend.
The front of the card read, “Making you horny and making you smile are my two favorite things to do.” Inside, it got worse: “Well maybe my 2nd and 3rd favorite things. Making you c** might be my favorite. So naughty! You are so amazing. You are everything I want in a partner. So in love with you.”
I stood there in total shock. According to him, he’d only “seen her once.” Yet here was a card that screamed weeks — if not months — of intimacy and emotional involvement. When I confronted him, he claimed he didn’t even know who sent it, and that he hadn’t talked to her “in days.” I didn’t believe a word.
“She mailed that card to our house — the one she knew I still lived in with him. That’s not love. That’s malicious.”
Sixteen Years, Gone in a Flash
He insists he doesn’t “want to be with her,” but his words mean nothing when his actions are the opposite. He’s been gone for weekends, lying about where he is, while I’ve been at home managing four children alone. Now, with this card, there’s no more denying it — he’s been cheating, emotionally and physically.
When I told him I was filing for divorce on Monday, he said, “If that’s what you want. I’m not going to beg you to change your mind. I’ll be the bad guy.” Just like that. No fight, no remorse, no attempt to fix what we had. Sixteen years, gone with a shrug.
Part of me wants to be petty — to take half his business and his Harley, just to make him feel what I’m feeling. But in the end, I know that would only hurt me and the kids. I’ll already be getting around 55% of his income in child support according to the state calculator, since I provide the health insurance and handle daycare.
“He says he doesn’t want her, but she’s writing him love notes. Someone’s lying — and it isn’t her.”
Starting Over
I know divorce will change everything — financially, emotionally, and for our kids. But I can’t rebuild a marriage on lies. He can’t claim to love me while letting another woman mail intimate letters to our home. I’ve been the one keeping the house running, raising our kids, and trying to believe in something that no longer exists.
He walked away from 16 years of marriage without even trying to fight for it. I deserve someone who would never put me in this position — and so do our kids.
“He said he needed space. I didn’t realize he meant in another woman’s bed.”
💬 Typical Reader Reactions:
“NTA. File the divorce, protect your kids, and let him live with the mess he made.”
“She sent the card to your house because she wanted you to see it. That’s pure cruelty.”
“He’s not confused — he’s comfortable. Take that away and build a better life.”
🌱 Final Thoughts
Sometimes, closure comes in the form of proof you never wanted to see. For this woman, it arrived in the mail — explicit, undeniable, and devastating. But within that pain is freedom: the freedom to walk away knowing she gave her all. Some men don’t deserve second chances, and some women finally realize they never needed permission to leave.
What do you think?
Should she take legal action and make a clean break, or try to protect him financially for the sake of the kids? Share your thoughts below 👇
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