AITA for reporting a rule-breaking boyfriend after his girlfriend told me to wear a bra in our dorm?
When a dormmate asked me to “cover up” because her boyfriend couldn’t stop staring, I decided to give her exactly what she wanted—just not in the way she expected.
I live in an all-female college dorm. I don’t usually wear a bra to walk the ten yards from my room to the bathroom or water fountain—it’s my home space, after all. One night, I went to refill my bottle wearing a fitted white tank top, not see-through but without a bra. Some people were hanging out in the hall, but I didn’t think anything of it. About thirty minutes later, one of the girls knocked on my door to ask if I could “please wear a bra next time” because her boyfriend was there and “staring a little.”
I agreed politely and thought that was the end of it—until I heard she’d been gossiping, mocking me, and exaggerating the whole thing to her friends.
The next day, my roommate overheard the girl in the bathroom telling her friends I was “showing off” and “trying to seduce her boyfriend.” She even acted it out, pretending to be me at the water fountain. Later, I walked past her group again—she looked at my chest, and they all giggled. The following day, the entire dorm got an email from our RA about “anonymous complaints” of inappropriate hallway attire. That was my breaking point.
“If her boyfriend’s the problem, maybe he shouldn’t be here at all.”
So I used the same anonymous complaint form she’d clearly used. I knew her boyfriend didn’t attend our college and that dorm policy strictly banned non-student guests—especially during the pandemic. I also mentioned they weren’t wearing masks in the hallways. The next morning, the RA sent another email saying ID checks would now be enforced for all unfamiliar guests. Mission accomplished.
“She wanted me covered up? Perfect. Now her boyfriend won’t see me—or anyone else—ever again.”
I didn’t mention names. I didn’t need to. The new rule hit exactly where it hurt, and if she felt embarrassed, well—she started it. At least she doesn’t have to worry about her boyfriend staring anymore.
🏠 The Aftermath
After the updated RA policy, things went quiet in the dorm. Her boyfriend hasn’t been seen since.
No one’s brought up bras, outfits, or “inappropriate dressing” since that day, and the hallway gossip died down overnight.
I’ve gone back to living comfortably—free to grab water without a fashion inspection committee waiting outside my door.
Petty? Maybe. But poetic justice looks great on me—bra or no bra.
Honestly, I didn’t need to humiliate anyone. Just a gentle reminder that if you play petty games, you get petty prizes.
💭 Emotional Reflection
Dorm life can turn minor annoyances into drama fast. What started as a polite request spiraled into slut-shaming, gossip, and public embarrassment over nothing more than a tank top.
The real issue wasn’t modesty—it was insecurity. Instead of addressing her boyfriend’s behavior, she blamed another woman for existing comfortably in her own space.
Was my response petty? Sure. But sometimes boundaries need a bit of irony to make the lesson stick: mind your business, or someone might mind it for you.
Reddit users had plenty to say about this bra drama:
NTA. It’s a women’s dorm—she’s lucky you didn’t start a “no bras allowed” movement.
Her insecurity is not your problem. You followed the rules—she didn’t.
The fact that your revenge was clean, anonymous, and effective makes it *chef’s kiss* perfect.
Commenters overwhelmingly sided with the OP—celebrating a petty revenge that enforced fairness without breaking a single rule.
🌱 Final Thoughts
Respect goes both ways. If you can’t trust your partner not to stare, that’s not your neighbor’s problem—it’s yours.
Sometimes the best revenge is letting the rules work for you—and enjoying your water refill in peace.
What do you think?
Would you have stayed quiet, or filed your own complaint? Share your thoughts below 👇
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