A Heartbroken Dad’s Discovery: “My Fiancée Secretly Hates My Kids — And Mocked Them Online”
When trust breaks, it’s rarely in one big moment — sometimes, it’s in a thousand small betrayals. One father found out the woman he planned to marry had been mocking his daughters online, plotting to kick them out, and calling them names on Reddit — all while pretending to love them in real life.
The OP (34MTF) thought he’d found love again after a divorce. He met his fiancée online in 2020 — both single parents looking for connection during lockdown. She had an 11-year-old son who eventually called him “dad.” He had two daughters, ages 13 and 10, who split time between him and their mom. The blended family seemed perfect — until he discovered her secret life online.
The Secret Reddit Account
Everything unraveled when OP saw strange notifications pop up on his fiancée’s tablet. The alerts came from a Reddit account he didn’t recognize — one that posted on “stepmom” and “stepparents” subs. There, she bragged about planning to kick his kids out at 18, mocked their appearance, and vented about “single moms” and “SKIDS” — short for stepkids.
“She called my daughters brats, pigs, and said my oldest makes her ‘cringe’ when she talks — my daughter has a speech impediment.”
On Reddit, she pretended to be the victim of “ungrateful stepkids” while in real life she told him how “blessed” she felt to have “bonus daughters.” She told other users that hugging or kissing his kids goodbye was “inappropriate” and that she couldn’t stand being in the same room with them.
The Confrontation
Shocked and heartbroken, OP created a Reddit account to reply to her posts — not revealing his identity — and asked why she hated these kids so much. Her response? “You must be a single mom lol.” Then she reported him to moderators.
He gathered proof, screenshots, and undeniable links between her main account and the secret one. When confronted, she claimed she didn’t mean any of it — that she “just got caught up in the community.” But when he told her he had already interacted with her, she had no answer.
“She lied to my face every day — told me she loved my kids, then went online to call them parasites.”
She tried to guilt him into staying, reminding him that she “supported him through his transition” and that breaking up would hurt her son. But to OP, the line had been crossed beyond repair.
Leaving For Good
OP told her to move out by the second week of October. She’s been insisting she “didn’t mean it” and that she “loves his girls,” but the damage is done. Her lies weren’t just words — they showed a deep resentment for his family and everything that came with being a parent.
“I’d rather be a good parent than a partner to this woman.”
Now, he and his daughters are staying with his ex-wife and her husband temporarily while his fiancée moves out. It’s an unexpected full-circle moment — his ex and her spouse offering comfort while the person who claimed to love him tore everything apart from behind a screen.
Reddit users flooded the post with support, praising him for choosing his kids over a toxic relationship. Many pointed out how common it is for stepparents to vent online — but how cruel it becomes when it crosses into targeted hate.
“That’s not venting, that’s bullying. Your daughters deserve safety — not a stepmom who mocks them for sport.”
“You didn’t lose a partner. You protected your kids from a narcissist.”
“She showed you who she really is — believe her. Your daughters will thank you one day.”
Many shared similar stories about stepparents harboring resentment, urging him to heal and protect his kids’ peace first. The consensus was clear: trust broken that deeply can’t be rebuilt — especially when the victims are children.
🌱 Final Thoughts
Sometimes, the most loving thing a parent can do is walk away — not from their kids, but from anyone who disrespects them. This father learned the truth in the hardest way: love built on lies can’t stand. His daughters may not know it yet, but he just gave them the best gift a parent can — choosing them first.
What do you think?
Was ending the engagement the right choice, or could she ever earn forgiveness? Share your thoughts below 👇
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